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6 things that bring about long lasting behavioral change.

6 things that bring about long lasting behavioral change.
Achieving long-lasting change has always been a challenge for therapists, teachers, trainers an regulators world-wide. Image source: geralt / Pixabay

The problem

All of us occasionally (some more commonly than others) struggle with how to bring about lasting change. Even therapist themselves struggle not just as therapist, but also in their personal lives. At the end of the day, they too are human. Here are a few real-life stories.

Problems always appear complex, and we seem to mess up other parts when we correct one.  Image source: OpenClipart-Vectors / Pixabay

The real-life stories

There is a well-known hypnotherapist who was unable to let go of his smoking habit (what a paradox). He was admitted to the hospital when he had the second heart attack. Despite the first, he failed to quit smoking. Of course like most of us who know our addictions are bad for us. He too knew. But the knowing failed to translate to action(non-action in this case).

When his doctor was on the rounds, the doctor said to him, “You have not smoked since 9 days, your smoking habit is now GONE” and that did the trick. He never smoked again. The simple suggestion as a part of a conversation, a simple encouraging word did the trick. Smoking is one of the most addictive and sticky things, difficult to get rid of. This huge change was brought about without any fancy induction, repeated script.

Let me give you another example. I have given hypnosis script for expecting women for quite some time for a smooth painless labor. When my wife was expecting I gave her the same script. We also attended prenatal classes. To counter all the beliefs she got from screaming delivery scenes in sitcoms and movies, I also showed her how animals such as elephants, giraffes, and tigers delivered their babies, without any trace of great difficulty. On the actual day of delivery what worked for her was a combination of all three. Most important thing that worked was the videos she watched. She kept affirming that she is like a tigress and will have a smooth delivery and so on.

The insight.

Work with whatever triggers the desired change.

solutions - 6 things that bring about long lasting behavioral change.
Keep at it till solution becomes visible. Image source: rubylia / Pixabay

What worked in these cases? (the solution)

  1. How over how much – The confidence, the conviction, the genuine concern is what matters, the time spent doing the script does matter but not as much.
  2. Quick over the slow – our brains are lazy and too easily bored. They prefer learning faster and moving on to learning slow and doubting. Do you remember something your parents, spouse, children, friend or teacher said that stayed with you for the longest time? It was possibly said in 10 seconds, but the conviction, confidence, and trust are what made it everlasting.
  3. Trust – how much do you trust that the therapist has your best interest in her mind? What your teacher and your mother said worked because you believed that they have your best interest in mind.
  4. Law of one-upmanship – the therapist /facilitator should be seen as superior or more knowledgeable or expert or knowing his stuff by the receiver. In both the above cases, that was true.
  5. The right choice of medium, language, and words – in my wife’s example what worked was the audiovisual proof of what I said in form of Animal videos. For the Hypnotherapist, the cardiologists said the sentence in the form of Marathi that the Hypnotherapist speaks to himself in.
  6. Keep at it while one should try to know which method works for the other person. It is not always easy to know. Besides what works can vary for different issues, time, receptivity. So keep at it and use everything you think can help. Something is sure to work. Even if it doesn’t you will know you have done your best.

Root chakra – origin in plants and animals

The phylogeny of Chakras

This is an attempt to see simile for chakras in trees and animals

Root chakra –

Mooladhara chakra – the words are made up of Mool – which means root, at the same time, it also signifies origin or the point of origin. The second part of the word, Aadhara means support.

Going by the origin of the word, this chakra is meant to provide the very basic life force for us. This is a life sustaining chakra. In the sense of ‘origin’, this is also the first chakra that gives the basic functions of life.

Roots provide the strength and stability for a tree to stand. In animals you might see the root chakra represnted in the tail, often contains or is connected to the main supporting structure of the body, the spine and the tail is used to bring stability to movements. In our case Mooladhar is situated near the tail bone (no coincidence). Root Chakra is meant to bring the same strength and stability to our life, that roots bring to the trees and tail brings to the animals.

At the same time the roots bring much needed nutrients to the trees which in a way is forms the life force for the trees and the entire food chain. If A branch with all the leaves transplanted, fails to develop roots, it withers away. So the roots give it the life sustainence. Likewise, the root chakra is meant to bring us the nourishment and sustenance for our body, soul and beings (humans included) around us.

In trees the roots are located deep beneath the ground. For animals in the tails, which are usually closer or protruding towards the ground. There is a tuft of hair at the end of the tail (imagine a bull or a pony) which are their antennae for the ground energy – a reduced version of roots. In our bodies tail is reduced to piddling tail bone. In our routine life our tail bone is rarely close to the ground and could be starved for earth’s nourishing energies.
Intentional cross legged sitting on the floor (padmasan for example) can be used to reconnect with the grounding energies.

© with ♥ by Dr Balkrishna (www.greenheart.in)

Appreciation (attempt at a poem)

Appreciate blowing a soap bubble
Children playing in a puddle
A mother and child cuddle
A baby’s first walk and fiddle

It gives birth to a new meaning,
created by your own thinking

When you appreciate something,
It could be beauty of the spring,
A rainbow in rain sparkling,
Roaring sound of a waterfall hurdling

It gives a new depth to your seeing
And a new dimension to your being

For the barely noticed afternoon breeze
For the everyday bread and cheese
For someone striving for us to please
We are too busy playing usual reprise

Appreciation may not flow with ease
But it can be a shadow beneath the trees
Appreciation is not just a giving
It is an art of differently seeing
Admiring the beauty of every being
A gentle touch in world so unforgiving

For the appreciated, an understanding
Of their own true value finding

Not just for the people who receive it
For all folks who care to notice it
It enhances the strength and grit
For a happier world and sheer joy of it

Appreciate things, each day at least one
Rest assured, it will motivate someone

© With ♥ by Balkrishna

 

Dedicated to the reader who appreciated one of my first blogposts and asked me to write about “appreciation

How I landed here?

Almost 2 years back I used to think I was an atheist. I believed only I can change the world for myself. There is nothing that can help me in that. In my own way my philosophy was that of a Karmayogi. I had debate with my parents and siblings around me. I found no reason to believe in God. In fact in 2002, I wrote an article on existence v/s non existence of God, for my college’s student magazine. In the last two years, I was exposed to many experiences which made sure in my mind that there exists a superpower and I am a part of it. It is with me all the time and it is true for all of us.

The journey that began after an amazing hypnotherapy session, has continued till now, and it will. The path has been as beautiful and enjoyable. I was led on this path.Who knows if there is a destination?  I just blindly followed. I found masters who guided me. And none of these was planned, I just went with the flow. I was not the one who was choosing really. It just came to me. It was a plan. This feeling- I have a definite place in the universe; there is a plan for me- is liberating. Its one thing that makes me  a theist.

I had a liking for understanding human psychology. I read a lot of books. In the last two years, however, a new journey started. This journey was not understanding by knowing theoretically, it was one of experiencing. I became a Reiki channel and got connected to the universal life force energy. I learned crystal dowsing  using the analysis of state of Chakra to access the universal knowledge. I learned level one of hypnotherapy from California Hypnosis Institute of India (CHII).  And then healing in some form or the other kept coming back to me. I learned the Art of Living level one. I practiced living by intention manifestation, using Louise Hay‘s affirmations. Again I got another way of accessing the universal supra-conscious, tarot card  reading.

My master says, “It is not an accident that you land up at such courses. You might think you had the time and money to attend these and that’s the reason you did attend. It’s not so. This is a plan. I as a part of this plan am supposed to help you to move from one level of awareness to another. You are meant to be a healer.”

There are no accidents!
Shifu: The panda? Master, that panda is not the Dragon Warrior. He wasn’t even meant to be here. It was an accident. Oogway: There are no accidents.

Experience natural painless delivery!

child gives birth to a mother

Childbirth is meant to be a beautiful experience of joy and celebration for expecting mothers and their families.  However, in our minds, the process of normal delivery is associated with extreme pain, discomfort and even fear of death. We all have heard dreadful stories about how much pain a woman has to go through, for a normal delivery. Due to these fears, it is observed that many people opt for delivery through planned caesarean, these days. Caesarean doesn’t cause as much pain and is seen as more convenient option.

In a recent article, Mint newspaper portrayed alarming facts on caesarean cases undertaken in India[1].

According to the World Health Organization (WHO), the number of caesarean cases in a country should not exceed 10 to 15%. Experts suggest that higher percentage of caesarean cases above these thresholds may be due to family members opting for painless controlled birth or advanced healthcare environment that persuades one to opt for caesarean delivery.

A study conducted in Scotland reveals that babies born through planned caesarean attract more health related problems than the ones born through emergency caesarean. Further, studies have also revealed that babies born by caesarean delivery are more prone to obesity, type-1 diabetes and allergies. Also, we understand from mothers that after caesarean delivery they tend to gain weight and are sometimes unable to carry out day to day activities for some months.

Psychologically, mothers who undergo caesarean delivery also miss out on enjoying the beautiful experience of delivering their baby. During a normal delivery a woman’s body produces hormone oxytocin, which is responsible for bonding with the child.

Even today all viviparous animals deliver babies naturally. However, we being far superior amongst the remaining viviparous animals are more inclined to choose planned delivery through caesarean. The same mint article that we mentioned above, shows that the % of caesarean deliveries goes on increasing from 1.5% in lowest wealth class to 25% in highest wealth class. One has to understand that our inclination towards caesarean delivery predominantly arises due to our fear of not having a painless normal delivery that continuously haunts our brain.

Hypnosis provides one solution to this problem and helps expecting mothers to overcome their fear of pain during normal delivery, reducing the pain to a great extent while retaining the joyous feeling. It also helps to go back in time and understand where these fears are coming from, and free our mind of these limiting beliefs under hypnosis. Dr. Balkrishna Korgaonkar, who practices hypnotherapy has helped expectant mothers to have a smooth painless experience of normal delivery, during hypnosis sessions. These sessions may last for 2 to 3 as per requirement, subsequently one may have to listen to an audio recording on regular basis. Best time to undergo these sessions is in 7th month of pregnancy so that you have enough time for listening to the audio. The more time you get, the better.

Let us see what few such clients say about their experience:

“When I was pregnant, I was very worried about the pain that I would have to endure as I had taken the decision of going for normal delivery. Reason being that it was my first time, and I had never experienced labour pain before. I was very tensed about the complete situation.

Then through one reference I met Dr. Balkrishna, he gave me some insights about how that experience could be easily managed through hypnotherapy. It made sense and thus I decided to undergo hypnotherapy sessions with him.

After these sessions I can definitely say that my fear of the entire process was reduced a lot! I was in labour pain for around 15 hours. But I tried implementing the tips & tricks given by Dr. Balkrishna. And I do think that it made my delivery and labour pain very much bearable. One of the things that helped me was that I was able to remain pretty clam at the time of delivery despite the pain, it certainly helped in a safe and normal delivery.

I was very happy after seeing my sweet little angel. Many thanks to Dr. Balkrishna Korgaonkar for helping me to enjoy this “experience of a lifetime” and sharing tips that made it much easier than what I was fearing. I would surely recommend these sessions to expecting women – especially who are planning a natural delivery. I wish him all the best.”

Dipti Korde

“After a waiting of three years, it was definitely a precious pregnancy for me. At the initial stage I was happy but as the second trimester completed, I became nervous n anxious about the exact birth process.

One of the friends of mine suggested me hypnotherapy for the better birth experience. So I met Balkrishna for that and attended two sessions in which I experienced positive energy and realised healing power within me. He gave me the positive visualisation of the process of child birth as a natural, joyous and energying one, which is the part of divine creativity. Those sessions made my mind and body relaxed.

I got the session as a recording which he asked me to listen every night. It helped me a lot to face the whole process with great enthusiasm. That recording empowered me and awakened my inner strength. It was so strong that I was eagerly waiting my due date.

As my due date passed, Dr announced me as post dated and advised for Ceasarian section. But I had prepared for natural birth and I was very firm. On that moment I took second opinion and admitted to an other hospital where I had to be induced due to not having any sign of contractions. As the contractions started, with every contraction I could face the process with positive energy. I was so calm and relax. The whole process I know wouldn’t be pain free but my inner strength made it possible to manage the pain and made it easily bearable for me.

I had really the best birth experience. Not only that, but I got a positive view towards life also from those sessions. I am really thankful to Balkrishna for helping me to have a positive birth experience.”

Prof. Asha Pandagale

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Gratitude

Something is shifting. I am getting to do deep work. Amazing to see people’s lives through their eyes and help them see their own light. I know for sure its not me. It can not be. Its well beyond my intellect and capabilities. I don’t bear the torch, I am merely a looking glass. It is sheer grace.

Gratitude fills my heart for these enriching experiences. Even the ones which I thought were the worst, blessed me with deep compassion.They were mere signposts. Thankful to my Masters, I have glimpses of the design, which perhaps they already knew. They showed me the path, but I(and my ego) had to discover it my own. The design will keep unfolding, I am sure. For sure the pieces come together one day and you realize the puzzle didn’t really matter. What you discovered in this process called life is really yourself.

Feeling blessed 🙂

The only thing we have to fear is fear it’self

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Fear is a deep-rooted emotion in collective human mind. All our lives we are driven by fear.

Man is a social animal, why? There is security in the herd. Man lives in a cave, why? Man does farming, why? Man created societies, houses, buildings, gated communities, why? We do things that we don’t like doing. why?

All this is based on need for security, protection (against death, when it started). Its Fear! of death, of losing face, of losing identity, of being ordinary and what not. There is nothing such as social pressure. Its just a projection of your fear of losing face/identity/position/respect. And that loss is no less than death to our current un-cosciousness

Obviously we can take charge of this emotion. Either start owning it, accepting it or look back as to why we are having it. As we own it, it will lose control.

Balkrishna

Clinical Hypnotherapy – Dispelling The Myths

ImageThe entire concept of ‘hypnosis’ is frightening for many people. Hypnosis is commonly misrepresented and misunderstood. When I inform people that I am a clinical hypnotherapist by profession, I am often greeted by stares and awkward questions like, “You won’t make me bark like a dog, right?” or “If I look into your eyes, will you be able to make me do anything you want?” The agonizing part about these questions is that all of it is not meant in zest – I can almost see the tiny flicker of fear in their eyes as they look at me rather warily. This article is just a small attempt on my part to dispel some common myths about clinical hypnotherapy.
 
Myth 1: The Therapist Will Be Able To Read My Mind.
 
Fact: It is a common misconception that psychologists, psychiatrists and counsellors are mind-readers. This luxurious misconception is extended to include hypnotherapists as well. In reality, no one has the ability to read minds.
 
Myth 2: The Therapist Will Unravel All My Secrets.
 
Fact: Even in a state of trance, you have the choice of whether or not you want to speak. You will never be compelled to answer questions, under hypnosis, which you wouldn’t want to answer otherwise.
 
Myth 3: I Will Be Made To Do Embarrassing Acts, Such As Cluck Like A Hen Or Bark Like A Dog.
 
Fact: This assumption of hypnotherapy is simply on the basis of stage-shows or wrong portrayals by the media. Clinical hypnotherapy is a serious process that is used for the purpose of awareness and healing. It is not something that exists for entertainment purposes. You are always in control, even during hypnosis, and no one can make you do things without  your free will .
 
Myth 4: I Might Get “Stuck” And Never Be Able To Come Out Of Trance.
 
Fact: Hypnosis is a very safe process. It is nothing but a heightened sense of awareness. Under hypnosis, a person gains access to the deeper pockets of the subconscious mind. Hypnosis is a natural state just like being in a state of sleep of being wide awake. Hypnosis is a natural state that naturally gives way to other states after a while. At any point of time if the individual does not wish to remain in the state, he or she can simply come out of the hypnotic state by opening the eyes, stretching, or simply communicating to the therapist to get him or her out of trance.
 
Myth 5: No Matter How Hard They Try, Nobody Can Hypnotize Me.
 
Fact: No one can hypnotize you against your will. In clinical hypnotherapy, we do not hypnotize people just to prove a point. If you are keen on resolving your issues through hypnotherapy, you will be able to get hypnotized if you just allow yourself to participate actively in the process. Hypnosis is nothing more than a deep process of guided meditation.
 
Myth 6: Under Hypnosis, I Will Have No Idea Of Where I Am And I Will Not Remember Anything.
 
Fact: Hypnosis is not a state of sleep. In fact, under a state of hypnotic trance, most individuals are more aware of their surroundings than ever before and they can vividly recall the experiences they had during the session.
 
Myth 7: I Have Never Been Hypnotized Before.
 
Fact: All of us enter a hypnotic state at least twice everyday – once, just before falling asleep; and a second time upon waking up in the morning before getting out of bed. Most individuals easily are in a state of environmental hypnosis when they are absorbed in reading a good book or watching a movie.
 
According to Debbie Bensching, hypnosis is a state of inner absorption, concentration and heightened, focused attention. It is like using a magnifying glass to focus the rays of the sun and make them more powerful. Hypnosis simply allows people to access their mind’s true potential.
 
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light not our darkness that frightens us…There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.”
– Nelson Mandela
 
Clinical hypnotherapy puts you in a state where you are more receptive to healing. The key is to allow yourself access to your own subconscious mind.
 
If you have any more doubts about clinical hypnotherapy and how it works, feel free to raise your concerns. I would be happy to provide clarifications.
 
Taken with Thanks from http://thesilverliningcentre.blogspot.in/2013/07/clinical-hypnotherapy-dispelling-myths.html

Blind spots, cord cutting and obesity

Some days back I was reading an article on our “blind spots”. These are the areas of our body that are often neglected. We do not like these areas. We do not pay attention, let alone the due love and care. These spots will often have dry skin, itching, abnormal hair growth, tight muscles, skin diseases etc. In a way “the blind spots” are shouting for attention. Despite of their shouting, we neglect them. Why?

Because we have our emotional traumas stored there. And we do not like touching the sites that have been hurt, do we? It is a defence mechanism that our mind creates to avoid emotional pain.

To give you an example,  for many of us our back is one such area. We are physically constrained in providing a loving touch to our own back, cleaning it properly. At a metaphysical level, our back represents receiving. And since we like to receive from outside we need to ask others for help when it comes to caring for our back. Who doesn’t love a back massage, releasing tension that we store there. relaxing those taut muscles of our back? Many of us do not like  our external sexual organs, anus etc. Apart from social conditioning of this life, we may have store past life traumas there.

How do we find blind spots? Just look for dry skin, itching, abnormal hair growth, tight muscles, skin diseases etc. Also touch each part of your body and see which parts react with fear, withdrawal, pain, muscle contraction in not just on that spot also any other place in your body. If you find any of these you have found your blind spots.

How do we deal with the blind spots:- The article suggested that we go around the blind spot. Start at the nearest possible area where you feel comfortable. Give a gentle massage in circular motion. Make circles bigger and bigger so as to slowly move towards your blind spot. Do this as process slowly as needed, and make sure your comfort with the area you are massaging is maintained. If there is any discomfort, go back to a smaller circle. And there will be a time you will be able to touch your blind spot without any discomfort. In effect you are using love to heal that trauma.

 

So then I started finding my blind spots and healing them one by one. One startling area I found was my umbilicus. This is where I was storing a deep trauma. Trauma of first separation, separation from mother – umbilical cord cutting. So yes, as I started dealing with that blind spot, I regressed to the cord cutting event. I felt all the pain and suffering that experience had. I released it.

Newborn child, seconds after birth. The umbili...
Newborn child, seconds after birth. The umbilical cord has not yet been cut. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Our umbilical cord is our feeder, our connection with our mother. When we are born, placenta and umbilical cord is born with us. Some cultures believe that the placenta is a twin soul for us, and they even bury the placenta like a child is buried after death. Umbilical cord withers by itself naturally. By that time it transfers all the energy to us.

But today, we do not allow the cord to die its natural death, we cut the cord immediately after birth, and that marks our first trauma after coming to this world (See links below for article on not cutting the cord). Don’t you think it would be painful for a child to have a sharp cut? I wonder where the nerve ending in the cord report to? the child’s brain or nowhere?

Then came a realization. Most of us accumulate fat around sites where we have emotional traumas are stored. We do so because we want to hide the trauma from other people and ourselves. It is a body’s defence mechanism. Obese males have a pattern of obesity – “male pattern obesity”, in which they accumulate fat over the abdomen.

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My thought are –
Males can not handle the trauma of separation from the mother, and they store that trauma in umbilicus hence they accumulate fat around the abdomen. Males most often have suppressed their loving caring feminine part. They are unable to overcome the cord-cutting trauma because, they are unable to connect to their “inner mother” – the internal maternal energy, which is very much feminine. Females on the other hand, should be able to connect to their inner maternal energy. And do not typically show the “male pattern obesity”.

However, these days where women are increasingly taking up masculine roles and suppressing the female energy in them, it is not uncommon to see male pattern obesity in females.

The conclusion is if you want to get rid of the belly fat, you need to connect to your inner mother. Love yourself like a mother does, allows others to love you. 🙂

Why do I judge?

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Half of my life is spent in labeling and judging people and things around me. Good, bad, ugly, good for health, bad for health, cruel, loving so on and so forth.

When I label something as good, what I really mean is it is better as compared to me, or good to me. So it is always relative to me. In short I am not evaluating the other, I am trying to evaluate myself on taking the other as a standard.

And why do I need to evaluate myself. Because I need to prove to myself (or my ego) that I am good enough. And that’s because I do not believe so. So this moment on, I choose to believe “I am good enough” As I do that, this compulsive need for labeling & judging is gone. I open myself to receiving and giving unconditional love to all there is.

I blame my labeling on inherent duality of life. I say there is no flow of energy if there aren’t two poles and hence I need to have +ve vs. -ve. This flow, the creations that it brings are proof for me that I exist, I do, I am capable, I am good enough.

I need this proof because I believe not that I am already perfect. There is no proving. No doing. Only being and experiencing. The whole purpose of duality is to teach us transcend to it and go back to our true nature – unity, love, being, present.