Blind spots, cord cutting and obesity

Some days back I was reading an article on our “blind spots”. These are the areas of our body that are often neglected. We do not like these areas. We do not pay attention, let alone the due love and care. These spots will often have dry skin, itching, abnormal hair growth, tight muscles, skin diseases etc. In a way “the blind spots” are shouting for attention. Despite of their shouting, we neglect them. Why?

Because we have our emotional traumas stored there. And we do not like touching the sites that have been hurt, do we? It is a defence mechanism that our mind creates to avoid emotional pain.

To give you an example,  for many of us our back is one such area. We are physically constrained in providing a loving touch to our own back, cleaning it properly. At a metaphysical level, our back represents receiving. And since we like to receive from outside we need to ask others for help when it comes to caring for our back. Who doesn’t love a back massage, releasing tension that we store there. relaxing those taut muscles of our back? Many of us do not like  our external sexual organs, anus etc. Apart from social conditioning of this life, we may have store past life traumas there.

How do we find blind spots? Just look for dry skin, itching, abnormal hair growth, tight muscles, skin diseases etc. Also touch each part of your body and see which parts react with fear, withdrawal, pain, muscle contraction in not just on that spot also any other place in your body. If you find any of these you have found your blind spots.

How do we deal with the blind spots:- The article suggested that we go around the blind spot. Start at the nearest possible area where you feel comfortable. Give a gentle massage in circular motion. Make circles bigger and bigger so as to slowly move towards your blind spot. Do this as process slowly as needed, and make sure your comfort with the area you are massaging is maintained. If there is any discomfort, go back to a smaller circle. And there will be a time you will be able to touch your blind spot without any discomfort. In effect you are using love to heal that trauma.

 

So then I started finding my blind spots and healing them one by one. One startling area I found was my umbilicus. This is where I was storing a deep trauma. Trauma of first separation, separation from mother – umbilical cord cutting. So yes, as I started dealing with that blind spot, I regressed to the cord cutting event. I felt all the pain and suffering that experience had. I released it.

Newborn child, seconds after birth. The umbili...
Newborn child, seconds after birth. The umbilical cord has not yet been cut. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Our umbilical cord is our feeder, our connection with our mother. When we are born, placenta and umbilical cord is born with us. Some cultures believe that the placenta is a twin soul for us, and they even bury the placenta like a child is buried after death. Umbilical cord withers by itself naturally. By that time it transfers all the energy to us.

But today, we do not allow the cord to die its natural death, we cut the cord immediately after birth, and that marks our first trauma after coming to this world (See links below for article on not cutting the cord). Don’t you think it would be painful for a child to have a sharp cut? I wonder where the nerve ending in the cord report to? the child’s brain or nowhere?

Then came a realization. Most of us accumulate fat around sites where we have emotional traumas are stored. We do so because we want to hide the trauma from other people and ourselves. It is a body’s defence mechanism. Obese males have a pattern of obesity – “male pattern obesity”, in which they accumulate fat over the abdomen.

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My thought are –
Males can not handle the trauma of separation from the mother, and they store that trauma in umbilicus hence they accumulate fat around the abdomen. Males most often have suppressed their loving caring feminine part. They are unable to overcome the cord-cutting trauma because, they are unable to connect to their “inner mother” – the internal maternal energy, which is very much feminine. Females on the other hand, should be able to connect to their inner maternal energy. And do not typically show the “male pattern obesity”.

However, these days where women are increasingly taking up masculine roles and suppressing the female energy in them, it is not uncommon to see male pattern obesity in females.

The conclusion is if you want to get rid of the belly fat, you need to connect to your inner mother. Love yourself like a mother does, allows others to love you. 🙂

Missing Our Old Habits- Enduring Discomfort

Sometimes when we break a habit or addiction we find ourselves missing it like a dear friend.

Whenever we make the effort to free ourselves of an addiction or a habit we no longer need, we are often surprised to find ourselves missing the old pattern as we would a familiar friend. This sounds counter-intuitive, because we think we should instinctively gravitate toward that which is good for us. And yet, it makes a lot of sense when you consider that we humans are creatures of habit. This is why we gravitate to people and places—& patterns of behavior–that make us feel comfortable. Therefore, many of the habits we form are not conscious & are based instead on learned behavior from role models who were not always making the healthiest decisions. 

Most addictions begin as a way of avoiding feelings that are extremely uncomfortable, so it makes sense that stopping the addiction means, for a time, a fair amount of discomfort. The same, of course, is true of habits that we have developed over time that we are ready to release. Just knowing that this is hard, & having compassion for ourselves as we work through this process, can help us to stay the course when we feel the urge to backtrack. It’s also helpful to remember that in time we will establish new, healthier patterns, & the yearning for the old ones will disappear. Eventually, we will instinctively reach for things that are good for us & the longing for positive change may form the basis of a new habit. 

The only way to get to this new place is to endure a time of difficulty, which is a challenge we can confidently handle, if we remember that it will lead to the change we seek in our lives. Our bodies, hearts, & minds always need time to adjust to a new way of doing things, but they will adapt & even become our allies, if we remain true to our vision of a new way.

Note: This article was shared by Vijay Mehra via email.